anyway every last one of you is an absolute gift to my world, and the universe is so much brighter for having you in it. I love you and am sending you all the sunlight and sparkles I can :)
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I just had a 20 minute conversation explaining to a customer what chicken wings were.
Did you say that they were wings from a chicken? @cheshireinthemiddle
Didnt work
I can imagine the phrase ‘BUT THEY DON’T FLY, HOW CAN THEY HAVE WINGS?!’ being used at least twice
It was worse
Can you please explain in detail how it was worse
Customer: what kind of chicken do you use for your fried chicken wings?
Me: im unsure of the brand, but i can check
Customer: no, what part of the chicken is it?
Me: im sorry?
Customer: like what is it made out of?
Me: they are chicken wings.
Customer: i dont think you understand my question. Is it chicken thigh, or chicken breast?
Me: it is made with chicken wings.
Customer: okay, you arent hearing me. Chicken is sold in different parts. What oart are you selling?
Me: chicken wings. The dish is fried chicken wings. Are you perhaps asking if they are boneless? They arent. They are actual bone in wings.
Customer: Im asking what *type* of chicken it is. You are making this way more difficult than it has to be.
Me: here, our menu has a picture of the dish. These are the chicken wings available today.
Customer: how can i tell what kind of chicken it is if it is covered in brown crunchies?
Me: brown…crunchies? These are certainly chicken wings. You can see the bone here.
Customer: can i speak to the manager? You dont know what youre talking about.
Me: actually i am acting manager until we get a new hire.
Customer: all i want to know is what kind of chicken you are serving.
Me: fried chicken wings.
This went on for 20 whole minutes. She didnt even order the meal.
This is the most frustrating thing I’ve ever read
Have you considered the possibility that you may be living inside a Monty Python skit?
Why “doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety
A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.
This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.
THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.
You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.
People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.
In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.
Therefore, I present to you:
THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS
–Go on a walk
–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.
–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching
–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind
–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift
–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:
–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.
–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.
–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.
–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)
–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.
–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.
–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:
–List the capitals of all the U.S. states
–List the capitals of all the European countries
–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.
–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.
–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.
Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.
(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)
This would’ve been great an hour ago
This is good advice for anxious peeps and peeps with anxious friends. Seems obvious now but I hadn’t thought about it this way before.
As an nb person, I’m pretty tired of the usual standard of nonbinary “”“"aesthetic”“”“ being skinny, white, androgynous. But I’m also really sick of people acting like we’re a cross between male and female, and all of their stereotypes of us being like a masculine haircut, with glitter eyeshadow and lipstick, but a more masculine outfit and heels. We’re not people that can be broken down into fractions of masculinity and feminity.
Also this is 1000% ok to rb, esp for non nb people
Why “doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety
A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.
This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.
THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.
You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.
People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.
In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.
Therefore, I present to you:
THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS
–Go on a walk
–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.
–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching
–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind
–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift
–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:
–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.
–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.
–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.
–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)
–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.
–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.
–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:
–List the capitals of all the U.S. states
–List the capitals of all the European countries
–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.
–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.
–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.
Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.
(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)
This would’ve been great an hour ago
STOP SCROLLING!
Oka, I plan on following everyone on tumblr
literally everyone
Please reblog so I can make this happen
Good luck :D 👍
wow that’s some project. i’d be afraid to open my dash
Wow well good luck!
Good luck holy shit
Okay, then🤣😂good luck with your project. Just please be careful. Tumblr has a dark side, and I don’t want to see you get hurt. ILY Fam.
End of Year Meme
- First things first, did you have a good year?
- How old did you turn this year?
- Do you feel your age?
- Did your appearance change in anyway?
- Post your favorite selfie.
- If you traveled, where did you go?
- Which fashion trends did you love?
- Which fashion trends did you hate?
- What was your favorite article of clothing this year? Post a pic if possible?
- What song sums up this year for you?
- What album came out and has been on heavy rotation since then?
- What was your favorite movie of the year?
- Did an actor/actress catch your attention for the first time this year?
- Favorite new TV show?
- Which new ship/fandom has taken over a lot of your time, attention, and tears?
- What food did you try for the first time?
- Did you make any big permanent changes this year?
- What was one nice thing you did for someone else?
- What was one nice thing you did for yourself?
- Did you develop a new obsession?
- Did you vote?
- Did you move?
- Did you get a job?
- Did you get a pet?
- Do you regret not doing anything?
- Do you regret doing something?
- Have you done anything that scared you?
- Did anyone/thing make you so mad it stayed with you for days?
- Did you lose anyone close to you?
- Did you fall in love?
- Did you fall out of love?
- Did you start a new relationship?
- Did you go through a break up?
- Did you have to cut ties to someone?
- Who was important to you this year but wasn’t important last year?
- Who wasn’t as important to you this year as they were last year?
- If you could have a do over on one thing you did, would you take it?
- What was the best moment of the year for you?
- What was the worst?
- Did anything happen that you were sure would change you as a person but it really didn’t?
- Did anything happen to you that you were sure wouldn’t change you as a person but it did?
- What are you most proud of accomplishing?
- What have you learned about yourself this year that you didn’t know in the years prior?
- Did your opinion of anyone change for the better?
- Did your opinion of anyone change for worse?
- If you make resolutions, did you complete them this year?
- If you make resolutions, what will your resolutions be for the coming year?
- If you could go on an adventure during the remaining days of the year, where would you go and what would you do? Who would you go this?
- What do you wish for others for the coming year?
- What do you wish for yourself?
Here we go i got nothing else to do..
First things first, did you have a good year?- Yes
How old did you turn this year?- 19
Do you feel your age?- yeah
Did your appearance change in anyway?- yeah, grew my hair out
If you traveled, where did you go?- college
Which fashion trends did you love?- being more pastel
Which fashion trends did you hate?- goddamn supreme
What was your favorite article of clothing this year?- larry my backpack
What song sums up this year for you?- wraith pinned to the mist and other games
What album came out and has been on heavy rotation since then?- my friend made me 8 mixtapes
What food did you try for the first time?- Udon noodles
Did you make any big permanent changes this year?- going to college
What was one nice thing you did for someone else?- listened to them
What was one nice thing you did for yourself?- went to support group
Did you develop a new obsession?- pastels
Did you vote?- no
Did you move?- kind of
Did you get a job?- no
Did you get a pet?- no
Do you regret not doing anything?- no
Do you regret doing something?- yes buying some expensive clothes that i didnt like
Have you done anything that scared you?- i cant remember
Did anyone/thing make you so mad it stayed with you for days?- no
Did you lose anyone close to you?- bye all of high school
Did you fall in love?- no
Did you fall out of love?- no
Did you start a new relationship?- kind of yeah
Did you go through a break up?- no
Did you have to cut ties to someone?- didnt have to but i chose to
Who was important to you this year but wasn’t important last year?- all my good good college boys
Who wasn’t as important to you this year as they were last year?- the high school
If you could have a do over on one thing you did, would you take it?- no
What was the best moment of the year for you?- making larry, running around at prom, feeling loved at college
What was the worst?- man yikes just people at hs though i didnt die or anything
Did anything happen that you were sure would change you as a person but it really didn’t?- college?
Did anything happen to you that you were sure wouldn’t change you as a person but it did?- college?
What are you most proud of accomplishing?- loving myself and respecting myself a bit more
What have you learned about yourself this year that you didn’t know in the years prior?- I really didn’t know how much i was just situational friends w people
Did your opinion of anyone change for the better?- yes, me
Did your opinion of anyone change for worse?- yes
If you make resolutions, did you complete them this year?- idk…
If you make resolutions, what will your resolutions be for the coming year?- Be here to experience life
If you could go on an adventure during the remaining days of the year, where would you go and what would you do? Who would you go this?- A place where no one is sad or worried and all of my friends, we would chill and love eachother and existing
What do you wish for others for the coming year?- Love, hope
What do you wish for yourself?- compassion, patience, care
to clear up a misconception:
bread is a fine treat for chickens. it will not cause any health problems to chickens if fed in moderation.
however, bread can cause nutritional deficiencies/angel-wing deformity if fed in large quantities to waterfowl like ducks and geese. wild ducks shouldn’t be fed bread. with pet ducks a piece of bread every once and awhile is NOT going to hurt them. bread is not some scary dangerous thing for birds. its not the most nutritious thing, but its not dangerous.
It’s kind of like if there was a wild pack of children living in a popular playground where almost daily random people would bring them skittles so much so that the children stopped hunting and scavenging and started subsiding purely on skittles that would be bad for them.
But that doesn’t mean skittles will poison your own children
this is a terrifying analogy thank you
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